You know it is a strange thing people say, that I have said as well, this idea
that when you lose someone you just need to give it time because most of the
missing comes from all the habits and comforts you had built up with that
person. Even people who leave someone else say oh I am only sad now because
of these habits I had with that person, we enjoyed a lot of the same things
but it wasn’t because I loved him/her.
This is madness.
The reason you built up all those habits and felt so comfortable with that
was because of the love you had for them and they for you. People do not
appreciate all the small, little things that go into love.
We all have very little time on this Earth, and to choose to spend the
precious time you have with someone, enjoying the same music, shows,
books, reading and laughing together, these are the most meaningful moments
in your relationship, this constant choosing to spend every mundane second
with another person and making it special because they are with you .
People only call big, well thought out events romantic, but do not see
the pure romance in loving someone so deeply that just seeing them smile
in pleasure at something you like and connecting with them brings.
These are the little bits of your love for someone scattered throughout the day,
bringing you two together again and again. Don’t forget.